Nine years ago today, this precious man went home to be with Jesus. Terry and I had been in love since we were teenagers and had been married for 33 1/2 years, so together for 35 1/2 years. He was not a perfect man by any means. But, he was a good man. A man who loved the Lord, me, his family and people in general. He was a happy individual, always laughing and cracking jokes or playing pranks on someone.
He was an only child, but most certainly gained two little sisters when he chose me. Charlotte and Debra loved him dearly, and still do. He loved my parents as much as his own. When Momma died, it broke his heart because he loved her so much. He grieved for our loss, especially for Daddy. For a long time, he could barely stand to be in their home because he missed her so much. She and Daddy had always treated him like their own son, not a son-in-law, but their son. That is where I learned that our in-laws are not "in-laws", rather they are "in-loves". My sister's husbands are not my brothers-in-law, they are my brothers because of love.
My sister's kids loved him. He was nothing more than a big kid himself and was always picking on them and playing around with them, teasing them....you know, a typical teenager! He loved those kids more than his own life. When he was sick and dying, he so wanted to see our niece and her family again before he left. He had not seen them in 2 years and missed her so very much. He wasn't able to attend our family Christmas gathering but Katie, Brian and the children came by our house before leaving West Tennessee. It settled him in for the final journey, He had seen his "blond bombshell" and now he could go home.
So, about three weeks later, he did just that. He left his mortal body behind and entered that heavenly rest we all long for so often. He was so ready to be there. Although he did not want to leave me, he knew it was his time to leave and he accepted that with peace.
When I remarried, many people didn't understand. Because Terry and I had had such a good marriage, people didn't understand how I could remarry. It was BECAUSE Terry and I had such a good marriage that I could remarry and love again. This marriage, like any marriage, has it's problems and we have our struggles. Marriage isn't easy but it is a wonderful experience if you work at it. But it takes two and those two must submit first to the Lord and secondly to each other.